A loose thread

It's already been more than a month since my unraveling started. I've always had a few loose threads but they only started getting pulled when I found out early March, my dad had thrown away many of my old room possessions.

The thing that made me most shocked were the dreamcatchers an old friend had painstakingly handmade for me. This bad-dreams thing has been a big part of my life for as long as I can remember. But nobody had ever come close to even thinking of making or buying one for me. Not even myself.

And this friend, who isn't on social media; I never knew if he is still alive and well. When I started pulling this thread I read back old conversations and remembered the way I had left him hanging, the way our friendship was so important to me and I only made it last less than a month. 

I do believe everything is connected, so all my emotions from then are more than the throwing of dreamcatchers. I started thinking about the personality that had reeled my husband in back then, the dark sense of humour and slight eccentricity. The way I think I do not have either anymore. 

It sent me further downwards, forcing myself to starve and down caffeine every chance I could. I forced myself to read old posts and listen to old favourite songs in a desperate attempt to get my old mind back. At home I hid our kitchen knives, I was reaching the point of wanting to cut myself open, hoping I still bled ink like the writer I want to be. 

Where was my husband in all this? He laid beside me in bed, his snoring not as loud as the returning voices in my head. I did find out a long time ago that having somebody to fall back into doesn't make you immune to depression. I still hit rock bottom despite having somebody doing everything he could to prevent it. 

And in the past month, there have been instances I think that is one of the problems. In the past, loneliness was a big part of my personality. It was the loneliness that sat me down to count trains and pick moths up with my bare finger, that made me skip to work and always show up even with migraines and eyepatches. 

It was the hatred for the world and everyone in it that made me read lists of most gruesome deaths and profile myself if I was a serial killer. It was the lack of exterior emotion that identified me as an android and that made my smiles more rare and valuable.

I feel nothing special anymore. I don't spend time alone anymore and I don't write well on the good days. The trains I take now are underground and I am in cars more often than public transport. When I take down customers' names on enquiry forms, my hand shakes like I'm still learning how to write.

Where have all the flowers gone? Is there really no way to have both happiness and identity? 

Maybe I've been wondering this deep down but only the loss of my past possessions pulled and pulled and pulled until I am left naked.